About Me

I teach parents like you how to love the kid they have, rather than the kid they imagined.

I’m an expert on how to adapt parenting in ways that best meet children’s needs, with fewer power struggles, and most importantly, ensure kids thrive in every situation.

my story

It was the 1990s. 

Cell phones didn’t have cameras, which was okay because social media didn’t exist. Movie night at home required a trip to the video store to find a movie and microwave popcorn (of course). 

I had my own ideas about parenting and education. After all, I had a Master’s Degree in Special Education and a few years of teaching under my belt. 

My ideas worked pretty well until I had children. 

When both of my children were in school the challenges increased, while my confidence decreased. Back in the day, we either depended on our friends and family for advice, or we had to go to the library or bookstore (remember there was no Internet). 

I soon discovered John Rosemond’s book, “Parenting Power”. With the best of intentions, I began implementing harsher punishments with little empathy for my kid’s feelings. We had few discussions about why they occasionally made bad decisions or sometimes received low grades. 

I believed I had to maintain control or else my children may become entitled. Heaven forbid, right? 

Unfortunately, we parented this way throughout most of my kid’s childhood. Though my children are now independent, amazing young adults, I could have done a better job of showing them unconditional love. 

I’m not saying I was a bad parent. I am saying I was too heavily influenced by culture and my own childhood. Even with all the degrees and training on behavior management, I could’ve done better. 

my life

In a way, I’m your stereotypical San Diego native. In my spare time (what’s that?) I love to read, write, draw, and catch beautiful sunsets with a camera in hand. In fact, you can find many of my photographs and drawings scattered throughout Tammy’s Teachings.

Most importantly, my husband of 30+ years (yikes) and I are proud parents of two adult children (and one sassy dog). Jacob and Alex both graduated from out of state universities and are currently pursuing their career goals. Sugar (the fluffiest of the three) majors in sleeping all day and barking when she’s not supposed to.

Here are some degrees, and such, that matter a lot in education, but don’t buy me a lot of clout with my own kids. I still earned them nonetheless. 

  • National Board Certified Teacher
  • District Teacher of the Year, 2007
  • Taught special and general education
  • Master’s in Special Education
  • Administrative Services Credential
  • Coordinator for San Diego Office of Education (2007 – 2017)
  • Director for National Board for Professional Teaching Standards (2017 – 2018)

my musings

Love Unconditionally

Children are like mirrors. They reflect their parents’ every strength and flaw in ways that test everything a parent believes to be true about themselves.

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Honor Failure

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” — Winston Churchill When we see success we admire its perfection. We applaud

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Embrace the Light

Recently, I had a friend tell me my son is absolutely wonderful. Don’t worry, this isn’t going to be a “humble brag” post. It is,

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